Definition of Procrastination: to put off the doing of something that should be done.
There are degrees of procrastination. In the milder form, it really is simply putting off the doing of something until tomorrow. And when tomorrow arrives, you get on it and get it done.
With the more challenging forms of procrastination, we’re putting off something until tomorrow but never seem to get around to the doing. And, we’re in conflict around this inaction. One part of ourselves wants to get a specific something done. But, there’s another, stronger aspect that is doing everything in its power to put it off or avoid it. And we don’t understand why we’re avoiding ‘it’.
This is when the internal critic usually chimes in with its debilitating remarks. Comments like, “I’m lazy!” “I’m so stupid!” I can’t do anything!” “What’s my problem?”
Bottom line, there’s a war going on between these two factions… the part that wants to get ‘this’ done, and the part that’s averse to doing ‘this’. We’re fighting ourselves. And this internal battling eats up a lot of energy. In fact, it can be completely draining and exhausting.
So how does one resolve procrastination?
Drop into a meditative state.
Ask for help from your Entourage (guides, friends, angelics, etc.)
Shift into neutral.
Attune to the part of yourself that is procrastinating and ask it, “What do you want to tell me?” “What do you want me to know?”
Maintain neutrality and compassion around whatever that aspect tells you. Do your best to ‘hold space’ for it to be, without any judgment.
Sometimes just by being present with that part of ourselves that has been causing us problems is all that’s needed. Sometimes, that resistance simply dissolves before our eyes and we’re able to move forward with ease and grace. And other times we need to repeat this process numerous times before that resistance dissipates.
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When we think about treating ourselves more lovingly, resistance can arise. This is because the majority of our associations with love have been conditional. Conditional love says, “I’ll love you if… you act the way I want you to act, dress the way I want you to dress, etc., etc.” We received this message repeatedly in childhood, through religious training, mainstream media, and music.
Solution… bypass all the conditional programming!
This is the easy part. Recall a memory where you felt appreciation. I’ve found it easiest to access appreciation through my memories of being in nature… a beautiful sunset, hearing a hawk in the distance, or watching animals play. Spend 3 to 5 minutes (or longer) hanging out in that memory. Focus your attention upon the good feelings and anything that amplifies those good feelings. When I spend time with these memories, energetically I’m amplifying those good feeling-experiences in my personal energy field. And what’s cool is that science is now proving that spending time in good feelings actually affects our physical body in a positive way. And, when I hang out in those good feelings, amplifying them in my personal energy field, I naturally attract more people, situations and opportunities, that external stuff brings even more good feelings into my experience.
Try this upon arising in the morning…
When I do this appreciation exercise upon arising in the morning my day unfolds in a much more harmonious manner. It took a little practice but as I continued to practice, those good feelings became easier to access and I experienced that goodness more and more deeply every day. Have fun with this. Don’t make it a chore. Look for things that evoke appreciation and it’ll become easier and easier. Enjoy!
The experience of being triggered can be very much like being sucked up by a tornado, caught in its swirl. Everything is spinning so fast and so crazily that we’re unable to think or see clearly. When we’re caught up in this swirl it can be very difficult to make a different choice. There’s often an overwhelming feeling-experience of panic or fear. We feel it happening. Often we know we’re caught. We know we’ve been triggered. However, when we’re caught up in this whirlwind, it can be difficult to shift out of this crazy state.
When we’re triggered, the first thing to remember is that this is actually a fantastic opportunity. This issue/pattern is arising because the life force that enlivens this pattern(which is a part of our Essential Beingness that got separated off) desires to be freed so that it can express more fully within our physical experience.
How to get back to Center
When we’re adept at embracing we’re able to shift back into our Center at will.
If we’ve been triggered it’s impossible to embrace that issue if we’re not in our Center. If you are finding it challenging to get back to your Center it’s easier to first shift your attention to something that makes you feel better. The objective is to shift out of the overwhelm, panic, fear or tension and access the higher vibrational feelings of openness, ease and relaxation.
Below are a few suggestions as to how to get back to Center…
Stopthinking about the issue
Don’t talk about the issue to others or to yourself
Focus on thoughts and feelings that make you feel better
Breathe… slow and deep. And place your attention upon the feeling-experience of the body… how the air feels passing through the body’s nose and filling the lungs… and how it feels to exhale and let go.
Listen to music that you find uplifting
Get physical – get those “happy brain chemicals” pumping ;)
Exercise – hike, bike, run, work out, gardening, walking
Smile at yourself in the mirror, even though you know it’s a totally fake smile. You’ll break out laughing at how goofy that fake smile looks.
Go for a drive, walk, run and listen to music that moves you
Unfortunately simply finding our Center doesn't usually dissolve the trigger. However, once we're back in our Center then we can embrace that energy form, that trigger.
And the good news is that each embrace and subsequent release makes it even easier to get back to Center. As we get clearer it also becomes easier to discern the subtler qualities of an impending “spin” and embrace the issue “on the fly” before we get sucked into the “swirl”.
And, just in case you’re not familiar with the embracing process, it produces real, measurable results. It guides participants through the process of how to shift into Center as well as how to release patterns and triggers.