What to do about ‘shoulds’

What to do about ‘shoulds’

The voices in our heads are always eager to offer up suggestions about what we ‘should’ do. Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to do what we know we ‘should’ do. And this is when the inner war sets in… the war between what we think we ‘should’ do and that part of us that feels unable to do what we know we ‘should’ do. This can drive us crazy! This experience is also energetically draining with its polarized push and pull.

So what is this really all about?

In my work with hundreds of people I have found that both sides always want what is best for us. No one part is ever really against us, even if on the surface it looks like self-sabotage. Underlying the self-sabotage is a deeper desire to ensure that we’re safe. And that part is doing everything within its power to achieve that objective.

So what can I do about this?

We can do a number of things to help to bring peace to these warring patterns…

  1. Recognize that both these warring patterns want the same thing… to be safe (or free, or happy, etc.)
  2. Attune to the Intelligence within the pattern (that animates this pattern) and recognize and acknowledge that this Innate Intelligence is a part of You, Your Spirit.
  3. Do your best to be kinder to yourself, to all parts of you, to all the voices. They just want to be seen, heard and acknowledged.
  4. Ask your Spirit to bring these parts of yourself back into harmony, back in Oneness.
  5. The “Future Meditation” is also an effective way to bring warring factions to a place of peace. You can use this meditation to breathe peace into the parts of you, to breathe peace into your future experience. You can access it here.

Wishing you much peace!

Our Thoughts Really Do Matter!

Our Thoughts Really Do Matter!

When my niece was visiting, I was looking for ‘educational’ stuff on YouTube for her. I love Dr. Emoto’s work. After a quick search I came across this “Rice Experiment”.

Needless to say, my niece was impressed. And I’ve decided to do this experiment here. That way, when my nieces visit, they’ll get to see the results with their own eyes.

I love things that provide physical feedback for invisible principles! This rice experiment fits the bill perfectly!




So if you had any doubt about whether or not your the quality or frequency of your thoughts matter or not, now you know!

If you have recurring negative thoughts or emotions that just won’t be quiet, I can help you get free of their negative influences.



Are you being mean to yourself?

Are you being mean to yourself?

With the media telling us that we have to be ‘perfect’ to be happy, it’s no wonder we don’t feel good enough. It becomes understandable that we ‘buy in’ to buying stuff we really don’t want or need. Combine the repetition of the media’s messages with our negative self-talk and it’s no wonder that we as a society suffer from low self-esteem and unhappiness.

So what’s one to do about it?

My first recommendation is go on a media diet. Focus on consuming books, mp3s, videos, etc. that make you feel good. Take in stuff that makes you smile.

Secondly, trying to be nicer to yourself. When you find yourself criticizing yourself, stop and ask yourself, “Would I say that to my friend, in that tone of voice?” Probably not. Practice speaking to yourself in the way that you would speak to a friend. Be more understanding.

Thirdly, stop expecting perfection of yourself. Think about it. Have you ever done this before? Can you remember being human before? Granted some of us have snippets of recall of past lives. However, they’re only snippets. The truth is that this is the first time we’ve ever been in this body, at this time, on this earth, with these people in this situation. We need to treat ourselves as we do small children. We don’t expect babies or children to get it perfect the first time! It’s unfair to expect perfection from ourselves.

I find it best to give something a try for a week to see if it makes a difference.

If they do work for you, you’ll find that your overall vibration will rise and you’ll naturally attract people and experiences that mirror this better feeling place.

Have fun with these ideas!

Emotions are like Glue

Emotions are like Glue

Emotions are like the glue that hold a patterned way of thinking, feeling, believing or acting in place. I know this to be true because every time I release an emotional upset for a client, I find that the pattern dissolves and the client’s thoughts and behaviours naturally shift into a more positive place. They don’t have to try to remember to ‘be positive’ any more. Positivity is their new way of Being. This positivity flows forth naturally and easily. And the outer world reflects this new consciousness by flowing physical people, places and things into place as well.

So, how does one dissolve that emotional glue?

In one word, Love. Love dissolves all discord and brings things back into their natural harmony. The problem is that the idea of Love has been tainted by our limited human conceptions and our negative experiences. Appreciation & gratitude are actually purer forms of Love. This is why the Heart Breath Meditation focuses upon appreciation & gratitude. (If you haven’t downloaded it yet, please go here to do so. You’ll be asked to sign up.)

Heart Breath Meditation

So step 1 is to use the Heart Breath Meditation to raise your vibration. When we’re triggered, it can be difficult to shift into a higher state. Do your best. Let it be okay if you can’t move into a higher state. You can still do this process.


Step 2 is to ask your Entourage (your Soul/Spirit Essence, Guides, Soul Family & Friends) for their assistance. Ask them to dissolve this emotional discomfort. Imagine that you can feel/sense or see them working. As they’re working, your job is to stay present and hold a space of heart-felt gratitude and appreciation for them doing this for you. Focus on how grateful you are for their assistance. Focus on how good it’s feeling to be freed from this.

You can also ask your Entourage to dissolve anything and everything that’s in resonance with this issue or emotion… throughout all your bodies… past, present & future… throughout all timelines, universes, known and unknown.

After you’ve done this exercise, notice how you feel now when you think about the issue. It will feel different. It may need to be repeated again. It may need to be repeated a number of times, which actually makes sense if you think about how long has this program been running. To expect to be able to clear it in one meditation might be a little unreasonable.

Wishing you all the best with this!

And if you find that need assistance to move through a tough issue, you can always book an appointment to get clear of it super-quickly!

Have a great week!



Boost Your Confidence

Boost Your Confidence

Would you like to boost your confidence?


If you’re like most people, there’s probably an area in your life where you’d like to boost your confidence. And here’s the good news… increasing one’s confidence is much easier than you might imagine.

Most of us have tried all sorts of strategies to deal with the critical voices that erode our confidence. You know the ones that tell us that were not enough, that we’re unworthy or undeserving. And often times we don’t even hear a verbal message but are just flooded with the emotions of insecurity and fear.

One of the most effective ways to deal with these negative voices and emotions is to remind ourselves…

  1. this is simply a program that’s been activated,
  2. and this program is animated by MY Lifeforce, and
  3. and this Lifeforce is caught up in this program.

Doing this helps reduce the emotional charge and makes it easier to move into a more neutral position. Once you’re feeling a little more centered then…

  1. do your best to access the feeling of compassion,
  2. with each exhalation imagine breathing this compassion into that aspect of yourself that feels insecure,
  3. breathe compassion until you feel better about yourself

If your critical voices are really loud it can be quite difficult to access compassion to calm all this noise down. If you really want to be free quickly you may want to consider a private session.

In the meantime, be gentle with yourself, and breathe.

What is a pattern?

What is a pattern?

Throughout my personal journey I have explored many different forms of healing. However, I was repeatedly disappointed to find that the deeper patterns always found to a way to reassert themselves. This drove me on, searching for understanding, for answers, searching for a way that actually worked.

It wasn’t until the Art of Embracing  began to unfold through me that I began to understand that patterns are more than just computer-like programs. Each pattern actually contains a part of our Beingness that has been split off, become separated. It’s a fragmented part of our Essential nature that has been rejected by others, and then, by ourselves. In fact, every pattern contains a part of our Beingness that’s been locked away, banished. And just as we feel the pain and hurt of rejection, so does it.

I then understood why pushing against a bad feeling/pattern – trying to make it go away by ignoring it, avoiding it, or concentrating upon its opposite – doesn’t work for very long, especially with the really deep issues. Repeated rejection only serves to feed the pattern, giving it more power over us.

With this understanding I began to shift all the judgment, resistance and aversion I had held in relation to disruptive patterns. I began to approach disruptive patterns from a place of heart-felt compassion rather than trying to change or get rid of them. As I learned to perceive them as Living Beings, as patterned Presences, their defences softened. As I stayed present with whatever was arising they would relax, expand and ultimately dissolve within this complete acceptance, this embrace. As they dissolved, this space would be filled with Expansiveness, Light or Beingness.

And the shift is permanent! The pattern doesn’t  re-emerge. Needless to say I was absolutely thrilled, ecstatic! I’d finally found a way that really works!

Resolve procrastination… the easy way!

Resolve procrastination… the easy way!

Definition of Procrastination: to put off the doing of something that should be done.

There are degrees of procrastination. In the milder form, it really is simply putting off the doing of something until tomorrow. And when tomorrow arrives, you get on it and get it done.

With the more challenging forms of procrastination, we’re putting off something until tomorrow but never seem to get around to the doing. And, we’re in conflict around this inaction. One part of ourselves wants to get a specific something done. But, there’s another, stronger aspect that is doing everything in its power to put it off or avoid it.  And we don’t understand why we’re avoiding ‘it’.

This is when the internal critic usually chimes in with its debilitating remarks. Comments like, “I’m lazy!” “I’m so stupid!” I can’t do anything!” “What’s my problem?”

Bottom line, there’s a war going on between these two factions… the part that wants to get ‘this’ done, and the part that’s averse to doing ‘this’. We’re fighting ourselves. And this internal battling eats up a lot of energy. In fact, it can be completely draining and exhausting.



So how does one resolve procrastination?

  1. Drop into a meditative state.
  2. Ask for help from your Entourage (guides, friends, angelics, etc.)
  3. Shift into neutral.
  4. Evoke compassion.
  5. Attune to the part of yourself that is procrastinating and ask it, “What do you want to tell me?” “What do you want me to know?”
  6. Maintain neutrality and compassion around whatever that aspect tells you. Do your best to ‘hold space’ for it to be, without any judgment.

Sometimes just by being present with that part of ourselves that has been causing us problems is all that’s needed. Sometimes, that resistance simply dissolves before our eyes and we’re able to move forward with ease and grace. And other times we need to repeat this process numerous times before that resistance dissipates.

There is an even faster way through energetic clearing. For more information about this please click here.


Being an empath

Being an empath

Being an empath ~ a gift & a curse

Being an empath can feel like a curse until one masters this innate ability to pick up on other people’s energies. Until this is mastered empaths are often unconsciously influenced by others’ thoughts, feelings desires, and emotional states.

As children many of us discovered that if we were ‘good’ the people around us tended to be calmer and easier to be around. And even though we didn’t really enjoy putting our desires on the back shelf, it was better than trying to deal with the incredibly uncomfortable emotions that arose when we went against what others wanted. This is how many of us ended up becoming people pleasers. It wasn’t so much that we wanted to please others, but rather we wanted to avoid the pain we feel in the presence of others’ emotional upsets.

We learned that we could (sort of) control the emotional reactions of others by acquiescing to their desires.  Unfortunately in the process of doing that many of us lost sight of our Center (our sense of Self, our Higher Self) and our desires.

The real solution to this overwhelming discomfort is learning how to manage this empathic ability so that it works for us. I have found 4 key abilities that have helped me, and my clients, better manage the energies.

  1. Knowing how to move into your Center at will
  2. Knowing how to discern between your energies and others’ energies
  3. Knowing how to energetically disconnect from people, places and things
  4. Release the patterns and beliefs that cause you pain. (Patterns such as: people pleasing, being “nice’, hiding who we really are, acquiescing to other’s desires, disconnection from our own desires, it’s selfish to think of myself first, feeling unworthy, undeserving, etc.)

I have found that #4, releasing patterns and beliefs that cause you pain is the fastest way to achieve 1, 2, 3 & 4. When a pattern is released one easily and naturally becomes more attuned to one’s Beingness (Soul, Spirit, Higher Self). Immediately, people feel more comfortable in their skin. And it becomes not only easier to be here, but actually enjoyable!

How do you treat yourself more lovingly?

How do you treat yourself more lovingly?

It’s easier than you think!


When we think about treating ourselves more lovingly, resistance can arise. This is because the majority of our associations with love have been conditional. Conditional love says, “I’ll love you if… you act the way I want you to act, dress the way I want you to dress, etc., etc.” We received this message repeatedly in childhood, through religious training, mainstream media, and music.


Solution… bypass all the conditional programming!



This is the easy part. Recall a memory where you felt appreciation. I’ve found it easiest to access appreciation through my memories of being in nature… a beautiful sunset, hearing a hawk in the distance, or watching animals play. Spend 3 to 5 minutes (or longer) hanging out in that memory. Focus your attention upon the good feelings and anything that amplifies those good feelings. When I spend time with these memories, energetically I’m amplifying those good feeling-experiences in my personal energy field. And what’s cool is that science is now proving that spending time in good feelings actually affects our physical body in a positive way. And, when I hang out in those good feelings, amplifying them in my personal energy field, I naturally attract more people, situations and opportunities, that external stuff brings even more good feelings into my experience.


Try this upon arising in the morning…

When I do this appreciation exercise upon arising in the morning my day unfolds in a much more harmonious manner. It took a little practice but as I continued to practice, those good feelings became easier to access and I experienced that goodness more and more deeply every day. Have fun with this. Don’t make it a chore. Look for things that evoke appreciation and it’ll become easier and easier. Enjoy!    

What to do when you’re triggered

What to do when you’re triggered

The experience of being triggered can be very much like being sucked up by a tornado, caught in its swirl. Everything is spinning so fast and so crazily that we’re unable to think or see clearly. When we’re caught up in this swirl it can be very difficult to make a different choice. There’s often an overwhelming feeling-experience of panic or fear. We feel  it happening. Often we know we’re caught. We know we’ve been triggered. However, when we’re caught up in this whirlwind, it can be difficult to shift out of this crazy state.

When we’re triggered, the first thing to remember is that this is actually a fantastic opportunity. This issue/pattern is arising because the life force that enlivens this pattern (which is a part of our Essential Beingness that got separated off) desires to be freed so that it can express more fully within our physical experience.

How to get back to Center

When we’re adept at embracing we’re able to shift back into our Center at will.


If we’ve been triggered it’s impossible to embrace that issue if we’re not in our Center. If you are finding it challenging to get back to your Center it’s easier to first shift your attention to something that makes you feel better. The objective is to shift out of the overwhelm, panic, fear or tension and access the higher vibrational feelings of openness, ease and relaxation.

Below are a few suggestions as to how to get back to Center…

1. Stop thinking about the issue
2. Don’t talk about the issue to others or to yourself
3. Focus on thoughts and feelings that make you feel better
  • Meditate
  • Listen to the Heart-Breath Meditation
  • Breathe… slow and deep. And place your attention upon the feeling-experience of the body… how the air feels passing through the body’s nose and filling the lungs… and how it feels to exhale and let go.
  • Listen to music that you find uplifting
4. Get physical – get those “happy brain chemicals” pumping ;)
  • Dance
  • Exercise – hike, bike, run, work out, gardening, walking
  • Yoga
  • Smile at yourself in the mirror, even though you know it’s a totally fake smile. You’ll break out laughing at how goofy that fake smile looks.
  • Go for a drive, walk, run and listen to music that moves you

Unfortunately simply finding our Center doesn't usually dissolve the trigger. However, once we're back in our Center then we can embrace that energy form, that trigger.

And the good news is that each embrace and subsequent release makes it even easier to get back to Center. As we get clearer it also becomes easier to discern the subtler qualities of an impending “spin” and embrace the issue “on the fly” before we get sucked into the “swirl”.   

And, just in case you’re not familiar with the embracing process, it produces real, measurable results. It guides participants through the process of how to shift into Center as well as how to release patterns and triggers.


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